Wife On Bed, Ready

Talk about a "come hither" look.

Motorcycle Monday: FU

A Peek At My Pubes Down My Pink Panties

Who's Ready?

Cutie

Pink Bra

Clandestine's Peep Hole

Her self-portraits are such a lovely window into her life, artistic, and erotic.

Bettie, Heads or Tails.

Two equal but opposite views of the great Bettie Page. Like flipping a coin, heads or tails. Either side wins.

New York Times Reports: "Return to a more natural state."

As editor of My Sexy Spot Blog, I strive to bring the best, most accurate, and most historically relevant stories about our understanding and appreciation (and acceptance) of human sexuality. As many long-time Dear Readers know, I have been following and reporting on what seems to be a grassroots cultural shift back toward a more normal (and in my opinion healthy) acceptance and appreciation of pubic hair.

I've noted it in amateur blogs, in the emerging works of Fine Art photographers, and even in the porn industry.

For so long I've seen hope peeking out like the stray untamed hairs from a bikini line. I'm amazed, and thrilled that finally a publication with a lot wider viewership than this humble DIY blog is finally taking note.

Last december, The New York Times blog ran "On Beauty For Women, a New Look Down Under."

Only once before in our history have we reprinted an article verbatim and in its entirety. We felt this article well worth it.
--Annie O.

On Beauty For Women, a New Look Down Under

by Amanda Hess

After years of razors, wax and lasers reducing pubic hair to the bare minimum — or nothing at all — there’s a return to a more natural state.

Marilyn Monroe’s maid claimed she once walked in on the actress naked and splayed-legged, bottle and toothbrush in hand, meticulously bleaching the hair between her legs a perfectly matching platinum. When Monroe danced onto a breezy New York City subway grate in that billowing ivory dress in “The Seven Year Itch,” she layered two pairs of underwear to ensure that her bountiful crop was obscured from gawkers’ sightlines. And when the studio photographer snapped on-set publicity shots of the scene, they were meticulously airbrushed to smooth out the unmistakable texture visible beneath her pleated skirt.

For women of Monroe’s generation, pubic hair was a game of peekaboo — on full display in the privacy of the bungalow, but carefully hidden from popular view. In recent years, the bombshell bush has essentially disappeared. Wax-wielding estheticians and permanent lasers have whittled it down or erased it entirely. Pornography has served up a new degree of bareness. When the paparazzi shoot pantyless pop stars exiting limousines, their cameras zoom in on a barren landscape.

It wasn’t always this way. For centuries of artistic tradition, the absence of pubic hair was merely an illusion. Renaissance artists depicted the female pelvis in smoothed stone or oil-painted shadow. Although a few artists made bids for erotic realism — notably Gustave Courbet in 1866 with the furry black patch in his painting “L’Origine du Monde”— the taboo persisted. The story goes that the 19th-century art critic John Ruskin was so shocked by the discrepancy between the renderings he’d studied and his wife’s naked body that he annulled the marriage. “Though her face was beautiful,” he wrote, “there were certain circumstances in her person” that left him unable to proceed. When the photographer Alfred Stieglitz exhibited 45 portraits, several of them nudes, of his muse Georgia O’Keeffe in 1921, they caused a sensation.

The explosion of the bikini on 1960s beaches changed everything, bringing with it the “bikini line,” which required a precise shave. The beauty industry graciously homed in on this new terrain, first with razors and depilatory creams, then waxes, electrolysis and lasers. Peruse popular nudes over the past decades and you can practically carbon-date the photo by the area’s dwindling dimensions. In the 1960s, the fashion designer Mary Quant got hers trimmed into a heart. Helmut Newton’s 1981 “Big Nudes” series of photographs featured towering heels and equally imposing pubic hair; by the 1990s, Playboy centerfolds had transitioned from a full growth to a teensy landing strip; by the 21st century, the “Brazilian” was established as the new standard.

Did it go too far? Today, the Helmut Newton nude makes for a more aspirational ideal than an unfortunate celebrity crotch shot. The New York waxing emporium J. Sisters displays a 1990s head shot of Gwyneth Paltrow signed, “You changed my life!!” But these days, Paltrow laughingly told Ellen DeGeneres, “I work a ’70s vibe.” Mert & Marcus photographed Daria Werbowy and Naomi Campbell with full, frank pubic hair in a 2010 Love magazine spread, and they look assertive, real, even rebellious.

Even young porn stars are “bringing the ’80s back,” says Nina Hartley, a doyenne of the scene. Stoya, one of the highest-profile porn actresses of the moment, has also posed for the fashion photographer Steven Klein with grown-out pelvis and armpits. “I’ve had all sorts of pubic hair,” she says. “I’ve been completely bald, I’ve had my entire natural bush grown out, and I usually have an arrangement somewhere in between.” It’s worth noting that this look isn’t completely untamed, of course. Many women still attend to the sides and underneath. But there’s something refreshingly retro, delightfully expressive and confidently grown-up in getting back to nature. And Courbet’s “L’Origine du Monde”? It now resides at the Musée d’Orsay in Paris, where — judging by the sale of postcards — it is one of the most popular paintings of all.

Here's the original link to the full article.

American Apparel, See-Thru BodySuit

As a 100% non-commercial blog, we don't endorse any product or company. However, we have been inspired to give props this Valentine's Day to American Apparel.

First, because they made the bold move to put pubic hair and colored-nipples on their window mannequins in their store in Manhattan's Lower East Side. And secondly, this image below. It's right off their website. Unashamed, unappolgetic. A model with nipples and pubic hair. And, we might add, not a lot of makeup, bleached hair, or fake breasts. Compared to a retailer like Victoria Secret, for example, I'll take this any day.

Added bonus: for Valentine's, she's shaped her pubes into a heart. So cute, so sexy.

Can one image on a retailer's website change the negative body image and shaming of natural women's bodies in American society today? No.

Is it a step in the right direction that no other major retailers have dared to take? Absolutely.

Valentine's Day Surprise

Here's another great image that demonstrates that the idea of grooming one's pubic patch into a heart for Valentine's is a classic move. Add some sexy see-through lingerie and that's a recipe for sexy success.

Ready, Aim, Fire

The anticipation...

Happy Valentine's, Heart Shaped Box

Here's a submission from a Dear Reader. Looks like his wife gave him a very special valentine.

Pit Progress

A Hint

Wearing only a tanktop. Just a hint of her pierced nipple.

Dani Daniels, Crotchless Crotch Shot, DIY

As Dear Readers know, this blog is dedicated to the spirit of DIY porn. We favor real shots of real folks, just like you and me, rather than the "professionals." But, what good are rules if you can't break them?

Every so often, we can't help but feature a contemporary porn star who breaks with the current trends, and rather than become jut another body, truly stands out as a trailblazer. One such is Dani Daniels. Going against the ubiquitous "all bare down there" look of the past decade, she's a woman unashamed to let her lady parts be furry. 

And, in the DIY spirit, she takes some truly sexy selfies. 

Like this one.

On The Train

Here's one way to help make a train ride go faster...

Pretty Bush

Girlfriend's pretty natural bush by window light.

In Pool, Wet Top, Bare Bottom

Why is she wearing only a think white shirt in the pool an nothing else? Why waste time asking or wondering... just enjoy.

Plan Ahead, Use a Towel

She planned ahead. Put down a towel on the vintage chair. Nicely done.

Nettie In Armchair

Just when I think I've published all the sexy pictures of Nettie, I find another... and another. Is there any photo of her that's not sexy? Just sitting in a chair...jeans, tank top, bare feet, her breast peeking out... I could look at this all day.

Sexy Kelsey

Kelsey. Need we say any more?

Motorcycle Monday: Catching Some Rays

Stop for a break, peel off the shirt, and kick back against the gas tank to catch some rays. Yep. Pretty much a perfect afternoon riding in the redrock.

Little Pull

Just a little pull to test the length of the natural hair under the arms of the elusive and lovely Fern.

Skinny Dipping With Lea

What might be one of the sexiest things to do? How about skinny dipping with French actress Lea Seydoux?

Lies, Damn Lies, and Statistics: Women Watching Porn

Porn doesn't turn on women? Not all women, to be sure. But I count myself as one.

The old saying is that their are lies, damn lies, and statistics. I don't give much stock to the stats reported online, since usually they are either originated by a blog or online magazine with a non-statistical sample size (like one survey I read with a 300 person sample, pulled from the Facebook of a British adult toy and lingerie company). Or are just re-reported stats with no fact checking, like a post published on Fox news that had been republished from the Sun, which originally came from who-knows-where.

Also, the top hits I got on my search weren't exactly current. Seems this was a hot topic in 2010, and circulated. Why then? Who knows. But digging back over the past decade is an interesting way to try to get a larger sense of a social trend. 

A 2001 study of 506 undergraduate students found that 35% of women had accessed "sexually explicit materials" on the internet "at least once." In 2006 another study of 563 college students found that 62% female respondents had seen online pornography before coming to college. Who knows if that's from the same college, or even colleges in the same country. But if we can generalize enough and assume perhaps the two samples of approximately 500 students are from similar enough colleges, the face value of the numbers suggest that twice as many female college students had seen online porn in 2006 than in 2001. I'd say this has to be somewhat true, since it's probably equally true that twice as many students were online in 2006 than in 2001.

Speaking from personal experience, I was at college in 2001, and we were on dial-up modems, and most of us were still using the college computer labs. (This was a state school, a Pac 10, and therefore what one might consider an "average" American student body.) In 5 short years, laptops were common and people got online via wi-fi. We're talking about the years from chat-rooms to Friendster to MySpace to Facebook. As such, the amount of porn online, and the ability to download it, or upload it changed radically from the start of the milleium through its first decade.

A report in 2007 claimed that 17 million women watched porn on a monthly basis. I don't know if that's 17 million American women, or exactly who the sample population was, so who knows what percentage that represents of whom. I guess the point is that 17 million women is a lot of women looking at smut.

The survey reported in the Sun in 2010 stated that out of 4,200 women surveyed, 76% said that porn was part of their sex lives. A more recent article, just a year old, sited the Nielsen report that said one in three adults browsing adult porn sites are women. So there you have it: if you have three women, at least one, quite likely two, and just possibly all three have spent a little time looking at sexy stuff online.

The reports usually also note that its more likely that younger women (ie Millennials) are looking at online porn than older women. But that should be no surprise. I'm sure you'd also see that reflecting in which age group of women accesses and uses the internet the most. (I think my Mom literally still has an AOL account, and my grandmother adamantly refuses to own a computer.)

What is most encouraging to me is the current trends of DIY porn. The 2010 survey from the British toy/lingerie company reported that 40% of the women polled had made their own porn. As I mentioned, they only had a survey size of 300. But the good news is that in the group, at least 120 women had made their own porn. Think about that the next time you are in a public space, like having dinner in a restaurant.

One thing is most certainly true: the numbers are under, rather than over, reported. Let's be honest: not everyone is willing to share every intimate detail of their sexual lives with researchers. A lot of people skip over polls. Maybe people looking at porn would rather look at porn than take a survey about it. I'm no statistician, but let's just say that I'm a woman who loves porn, and no one has ever asked me in a poll, so I am one of the uncounted.

What can we take away from this? Lies, damn lies and statistics? Can we infer anything concrete from the numbers, or just that the numbers seem to follow what we'd expect anyway: over the last 10 years, more women are online looking at things; more often than not, those women are younger women; and at least two out of three woman are taking a moment to check out sexual content. Possible two out of three. And the third is my grandma.

I guess that isn't exactly shocking news. But what I hope comes from this is that as more and more people (men and women) are able to access the wide world of online porn, people will be able to see the variety of human sexuality, and in the viewing of such diversity, come to realize that: a) sex is fundamental to the human experience; b) everyone is different and so no one is "normal" and conversely, the thing you are into that you thought so "abnormal," you realize is shared by hundreds, maybe thousands, or maybe even millions of others; c) my personal favorite--if you don't see anything that reflects you and your experience, you can simply make your own.

Bell Bottom Blues

Bettie In Bed

It's been a while since we posted a sexy image of the "infamous" Bettie Page. I use irony quotes because infamous is so pejorative. Bettie was a pioneer.

Surf's Up!

How about a little nostalgia for summer?

American Apparel Got Real For Valentine's

Known for its "provocative" ads, clothing retailer American Apparel sent shockwaves rippling across lower Manhattan last month when its Houston Street store displayed lingerie-clad mannequins with nipples and faux pubic fur.

District Visual Manager Dee Myles stated that the display is meant to bring "rawness and sexiness" to the upcoming Valentine's day holiday, and to "spark up curiosity and conversation about what we deem beautiful."

American Apparel issued this statement to the media:

“American Apparel is a company that celebrates natural beauty, and the Lower East Side Valentine’s Day window continues that celebration. We created it to invite passerby’s to explore the idea of what is ‘sexy’ and consider their comfort with the natural female form. This is the same idea behind our advertisements which avoid many of the photoshopped and airbrushed standards of the fashion industry.”

A few detractors have claimed that the marketing move was done more to sell lingerie than to promote pro-woman body acceptance in its natural state. To which I say: duh! 

If a retail giant like Home Depot runs an ad showing a happy family in their backyard having a BBQ over Memorial Day, it's because Home Depot wants to sell you a lawnmower or a new shiny barbecue. Whether or not you have a family picnic is up to you. 

Of course American Apparel wants to sell bras and panties. That's there for-profit business. And, as someone once said: the business of business is business. Ads, by their very definition, are human designs calculated, created, and put to the public eye to arouse interest and spark an emotional response.

There's another old saying: sex sells. 

That's not news--so why can anyone in the 21st Century be surprised, or even remotely offended by American Apparel trying to tap the fact that "sex sells?"

Other major retailers have been pushing air-brushed women with spray tans and plastic boobs.

If American Apparel displays mannequins with untrimmed bushes to sell "sexy," I say: right on!

As long as sex sells sells and people buy sexy, I think it's great to finally be seeing "sexy" as closer to natural than to fake. I personally think it's lovely to see--FINALLY--a mainstream American advertisement that looks like me. Brown hair. glasses, and bush.

(and nipples)

That Smile

That smile that says: just you relax, I'll take it from here.

Morning Coffee, Thinking of You

Ski Girl Shows Off In Snow

Bottoms Up!

Chaps: my nomination for sexiest article of clothing never originally meant to be a sexy article of clothing.

Bathroom Mirror, Revisitted

Sometimes the best art is when you're forced to work with what you have. Over and over again, forced to see old things in new ways. Take, for example, a simple bathroom mirror. The lovely Eva.

Lea, Reading, Relaxing

Hey, did you enjoy the topless photo of the lovely Lea Seydoux I posted yesterday? I bet you did!

So here's another, Dear Readers.